Warning – Its a rant ahead. Read at your own risk, along with a rusk 🙂
I have this neighbour family-they are a nice couple, friendly and helpful. But the thing that bothers me is that they are a tad bit curious about what happens in my home, what we have bought, how we have decorated our house and things like that.
It started right from the time they bought the flat next to ours (our apartment was still under construction). Since the watchman used to have the keys to the flats, they used to ask him to open our flat and check how we were doing up our house!!! Ridiculous, right?? K and me never found that out until later.
We had asked the builder to make small changes to the plan for our house and he was cool enough to accommodate them. Things like having an open kitchen, making the bathroom bigger, diff colour paints for each room etc. Imagine our shock when after copying everything the Mr. tells us jokingly one day “we also made our kitchen a little bigger, copied the same paint colours from your house,ha ha ha”. It was not at all funny to us. Poor K, he had to take all my teeth gnashing and darting arrow looks. He also has this habit of asking us for the amount we spent on a specific item and then goes onto state that he went searching for a similar product and got it at a lesser rate!! Oh how I feel like talking to him with my hands.
Besides this, every week the Mrs. just walks in (whenever she finds our door open), no ringing the door bell, no knocking, no calling out to me.. and while she makes the excuse of talking to me, I can see her eyes wandering trying to find out what new things we have bought for the house!!
Things have gone to the extent copying the decorative items, even buying the same bed sheets!!!. One day the bed sheet was put to dry in the common area and my mom went to remove it thinking I had put it there. Immediately the Mrs. ran out saying “aunty, it is mine”. My mom was so amazed and blurted out “you have even bought same bed sheets like our house????” to which the Mrs. just blushed with embarrassment and hurried into her house. Things like these have irritated me so much, that my only way of venting my anger is on my hubby. But then the practical hubby says “Imitation is the best form of flattery, be happy that she finds your taste and style so good that she also wants to copy that”. That moment all I want to do is to use the frying pan on poor hubby’s head. 😦 🙂
What I don’t understand is that why can’t people just follow their own ideas and do what they want and live their lives according to what they want. Why do they want to copy from others? Though it might be easy to copy rather than rack your brains and find ideas, after a few years won’t you find it so horrible to have done everything the other person has or decorated your house like a twin of your neighbour’s??? Won’t they like to or want to do it their own way???
This doesn’t stop at things in the house, copying the type of clothes we wear too. For eg, when they newly came into the building for about 1st 2 months the Mr. used to wear into lungis. The Mrs. noticed my hubby wearing 3/4th’s or shorts at home. Suddenly he starts wearing shorts and 3/4ths and that too same colours and designs that my hubby has!!! Ok, you can always change your style, but man, wouldn’t you want to buy something with a different design and colour??? Made me realize that they notice so much and go shopping for exactly the same things!!!
To top it all the Mrs. has a horrible habit of coming straight and peeping into our bedroom when we are in the room or even when we are not there. I have tried to be discreet in telling her that it’s not manners to walk straight into some one’s bedroom, whether its empty or not. But she just refuses to get the message! It is her curiosity to check what are the new things that we have bought for our bedroom-be it a wall painting or new photos put up in our bedroom wall.
I am just at a loss what to do and how to make this person understand. I guess I’ll just have to bite my teeth and bear with it. It would just take me 2 minutes to give her a piece of my mind. But I just don’t want to spoil our neighborly relations. It doesn’t help that our main doors are just 2 feet away from each other. Even weekend grocery bags do not escape their scrutiny. The Mr. comes out and makes conversation just as we wait to open our door and all the while his eyes are on how many bags are there, what all are visible through the bags!!!! I have given up!!!
Have any of you come across such over-enthu neighbours and have you communicated to them that you don’t like what they are doing???